1. What is more important to you: your relationship with yourself or your relationship with those who are close to you?
Wow, that is a good one. It should probably be my relationship with myself because we need to accept ourselves the way we are before we can have a truly good relationship with someone else. But for me my relationship with those close to me is more important. Why? Well, I think because I want those close to me to be happy and it is important to me that our relationship stay close and happy.
2. Which of the above do you tend to have the least problem cultivating?
I believe I have the least problem cultivating my relationships with those close to me. I get along well with just about everyone and I am a giver, not a taker and that seems to be what works for me in relationships.
3. Something goes wrong in your life. Of the people you are most likely to turn to, are they the same gender as you or the opposite?
Most of the people I would turn to are the same gender. I only have one really good male friend outside of my husband.
4. Something goes wrong in a close friend’s life and you’re the person that friend chooses to call first. Is that person likely to be the same gender as you or the opposite?
Considering most of my friends are women then it would be the same gender.
5. Take the quiz: What Makes You a Good Friend?
You Are a Good Friend Because You're Supportive |
 You are almost like a life coach for your best friends. You give them help when they need it... but you also know when to give them a push. People tend to rely on you for moral support and advice. You've probably always been mature for your age, so this is a role that's you're comfortable with. A friend like you is one of the rarest kinds. You are both a good mentor and companion. Your friends need you most when: They are confused or worried You really can't be friends with: Someone who only wants to complain Your friendship quote: "The only way to have a friend is to be one." |
6. What single trait listed in the response to question #5 would your closest friend most agree with?
People tend to rely on you for moral support and advice.
Last week was very interesting. It made me examine what I really want and what is best for my immediate family, which is my husband and I. I have thought that I wanted to move to Georgia to be closer to my family. I would love to see them at least once a month. This last week however has presented a different path, which we have had to really analyze and determine which is the best. One is much better for us financially and the other is a very uncertain path. As much as I want to live in Georgia, finding a job there seems to be the difficult thing at this time. We only moved to Mississippi to be closer to family; other than that there is nothing else here for us. So, we could stay here, waiting for a job to show up in Georgia and being unhappy here or we can seriously look at this other offer, and make this our last move. So, last week was a good week in that it made me analyze where life is going for me and figure out if I go with the offer that moves me from here, how will I come to terms with that where family is concerned. We would be closer to my sister-in-law, which would be nice and further from my parents, brother and brother-in-law. In the end there is no perfect solution, it is just which one is easier to live with. No decision yet, but it was a week of digging deep and that is always good.
1. I love Peanut Butter and Banana sandwiches
2. I tried my first cigarette when I was 7. You can blame that on my uncle who was 10 at the time.
3. I used to play softball and basketball.
4. I learned to crochet when I was 10.
5. I was born in Maryland
6. I have an ancestor that was part of the infamous James Gang.
7. I like the color sage green in my bedroom.
8. I have a red couch.
9. I like mustard on cheese pizza. (Really good on those little frozen pizzas that are so bad for you.)
10. I love all types of texmex and traditional Mexican cuisine.
11. Pink has become my favorite color, though I still like purple a whole lot too.
12. I had Scott Baio’s picture on my wall as a teen.
13. I some how have gained patience in the last few years.
14. I am a type A personality according to all of those tests I have taken at leadership seminars.
15. I am what the Department of Veterans Affairs calls a subject matter expert on payroll at the VA.
16. I once visited Dachau.
17. I have been to an opera.
18. I love to go to off-Broadway shows.
19. I am gullible.
20. I love pumpkin pie.
21. I love Peanut Butter and Honey sandwiches
22. I was a girl scout.
23. I had an essay published in Germany in the Department of Defense Seeds and Serendipity book of poems and essays form students in Europe in the 80s.
24. I was able to know both sets of my grandparents
25. I am related to Bob Bondurant the race car driver. (my mom’s side of the family)
26. I love to fish and am more patient at it than my husband.
27. I eat lunch every day with my husband….me at work in my office and him sitting in the car with me on the cell phone.
28. I attended 1st grade in New Mexico .
29. I have been to the Hoh rainforest.
30. I love Peanut Butter and Nuttella sandwiches (okay, I just love peanut butter)
31. I have seen a whale jump out of the water.
32. I love to scrapbook.
33. I used to be a Creative Memories Consultant.
34. I have a brother.
35. I do not take compliments well.
36. I do not tolerate men who belittle women.
37. I am an outspoken person and have no problem stating what I think.
38. I am learning to love almond butter as much as peanut butter.
39. I was once an Amway Independent Business Owner.
40. I love the Amway Brand products.
41. I love quiche.
42. I hate blue cheese.
43. I am a recovering Catholic.
44. I don’t do well with conflict.
45. I am very empathetic.
46. I have found a home in the Unity Church.
47. I used to sing in a choir (those poor people).
48. I once sold Tupperware.
49. I have 11 nieces and nephews, though sadly one left us to early.
50. I was a tomboy for much of my childhood. (you should see my knees)
51. I built an igloo with my brother and neighborhood friends one winter in Germany . It was there for weeks.
52. I used to run through the farmers corn in Germany .
53. I am allergic to most animals.
54. I have a bird, cat, and dog.
55. I love to wave to people I don’t know when we drive around town.
56. I love to laugh.
57. I love coconut rum.
58. I love Philadelphia pretzels.
59. I went to 4 different high schools.
60. I love to cook.
61. I like all types of crafts.
62. I once sold Avon .
63. I have a piece of the Berlin Wall.
64. I went skiing in the Alps when I was 11.
65. I had my tonsils out when I was 12.
66. I left Germany for the last time when I was 13.
67. I started a real estate course, but never finished.
68. I have a large green Phillie Phanatic.
69. I color my grey/white hair religiously.
70. I have a very good memory.
71. I used to eat onions as if they were apples when I was a kid.
72. I did not know how to pretend when I was little. Mom had to teach me how to have a tea party.
73. One of my most favorite books I read as a kid was Archy and Mehitabel by Don Marquis.
74. I consider myself at the core of Generation X. I was 2 months old when Sesame Street started. I was 7 when the first Star Wars was released and I was 11 when MTV first aired.
75. I loved school and still do. (So, we ask why did she never finish and get a degree?)
76. Making a cold call on the phone frightens me more than speaking to a large audience.
77. I have never smoked pot.
78. I love board games.
79. I love to travel, but not for work.
80. I have broken both of my ankles. (not at the same time thank goodness)
81. I love to sleep in a cold room with lots of blankets and my foot sticking out to radiate heat.
82. My favorite vegetable is spinach.
83. I cry at the drop of a hat. (and sometimes this pisses me off as I perceive myself as a strong woman and cry at times when I need others to have that perception of me)
84. My first concert was out door and it was to see Kool and the Gang.
85. I have seen every episode of Farscape.
86. I have parents that have been married for 41 years, which is rare in this day and age.
87. My favorite music is Golden Oldies and 80s Music.
88. My favorite music group of all time is The Four Seasons.
89. I have only been on a horse once in my life...and I loved it.
90. I dream of writing a fantasy novel some day.
91. I didn't get my drivers license until I was 21.
92. I hate shopping. (my husband loves it)
93. I have few very close friends.
94. I love going on dates with my husband.
95. I support gay marriage.
96. I love hot chocolate.
97. I have never been to a psychic, but would like to.
98. When I was little the family called me Sissy.
99. I love sushi.
100. I like to write snail mail to friends and family still.
1. Enough with the _____.
Enough with the Excuses. Everyone has them. Instead of just yeah...it happened...and moving on...there is an excuse...please!!!!!!!!
2. _____ causes me to be conflicted.
Abortion causes me to be conflicted. I personally cannot support killing a child, however, and my mom and I could not come to terms on this...I do believe that if I had a young daughter who is raped and becomes pregnant form that rape and she just could not get past the rape to see the joy of the child she was carrying and just wanted to end the pregnancy I would support her in that decision. I would do everything in my power to educate her on her options and try to help her see the blessing that was created from such a horrible experience, but in the end if she felt she just could not carry the child to term I would support her in ending the pregnancy. I believe that some women/girls just would rather live with knowing they ended a life then having the reminder of the rape.
3. I've been craving _____.
I've been craving a good German dinner.
4. _____ makes me laugh.
My husband makes me laugh. We have the best times together. We can spend the whole evening at home together, doing nothing special and laugh on and off all night long.
5. I wish I could go to _____ next week.
I wish I could go to Hawaii next week. It is the best place I could think of right now weather wise.
6. _____ has been on my mind lately.
Having children has been on my mind lately. I don't know if it will ever be possible biologically and at 40 I don't know if I want a baby, though it would have been nice to have had a child from my own blood. But I want to get my life in order so that in the next 1-2 years we can adopt an older child.
7. And as for the weekend, tonight I'm looking forward to _____, tomorrow my plans include _____ and Sunday, I want to _____!
And as for the weekend, tonight I'm looking forward to relaxing, tomorrow my plans include chatting with my bffl and Sunday, I want to watch the Eagles WIN the NFC Championship!
I have not done one of these in awhile and even though I currently don't have children and unless we finally adopt we will never have children I still wanted to do this one.
What do you want to teach your (Current, future, or fictional) children.
Never having been a parent there are so many things I have dreamed of that I would have liked to have taught my children. My mom always taught us we could be/do anything that we set our minds to and I would have reiterate that to my children. It upsets me when I see families that hold back their children from improving on previous generations, "because that is how it has always been for this family". I would teach my children never to settle. When I find myself settling then I know it is time to make a change because there is not growth in settling. And I know I deserve what I want and should not have to settle for something. I would teach them that they have total control to create their own reality, that there is no one else that will or should do it for them. And lastly I would teach them to always believe what they know with their heart, whether it be about people or God, to not take what other people say or what is written in books as gospel. I did that for a long time and since I have been following my heart instead of taking what people tell me or what books tell me as law/gospel I have been a much happier and content person. I said lastly, but I am sure if I dwelled on this subject long enough I would come up with more, but these things seem the most important to me at this moment.
