As we are getting closer and closer to being approved to be able to adopt a child in the state of Texas I am becoming more and more aware that because of all of our moving our support network is spread far and wide. As we think about who is local to watch our child, especially during the fostering period, we are very limited as we have many acquaintances, but few people we would call "good friends".
We talk about going to church more regular and getting involved, which would help us to meet people. I even joined a couples meet-up group, but we have not had a chance to make any of their gatherings. Kerry is only off every other weekend and we just seem to never want to give up that 2 hours on Sunday and then to invest the time for other things during the week.
I even have a cousin that lives in the area. We were never real close, mostly because of the difference in our ages and that our parents were not close and we grew up far apart. It would be nice to get to know her better and maybe then our children would have a chance to know each other better.
We also have Kerry's sister and her family six hours away. A little far for calling over and asking if she could watch our child, but still close enough if it was a major emergency that they could make arrangements to come offer support.
I am closest with Kerry's sister than anyone else in the area, though she is somewhart far for day to day contact, but I fortunately do have a couple very good friends we have made over the past few years and a new one that I am becoming attached to...so, we have a small support network and will just have to work on making it a bit bigger.
As we go through this process it really makes you look at your life and how you have lived it and what will be changing. This causes me to go through a gamut of emotions, but I find it somewhat refreshing also. I am working on making some meaingful changes in my life from all of this introspection...stay tuned for the new me as I evolve...